I often receive calls from parents who begin with a hesitant, emotional statement: “This is going to be a hard one for you, but I really need your help!”
They then proceed to tell me about their child—how bright, outgoing, and wonderful they are, how much they love animals, how curious and energetic they can be. But then comes the hesitation, sometimes even a choked-back sob. “He is somewhere on the spectrum, and I really want him to learn to get along with others, be more independent, not get teased, just have fun….”
I often respond with, “And you could use a break as well.”
That’s when the voice on the other end shifts from restrained emotion to an outpouring of tears.
Today, I want to tell you: You are not alone.
There are so many families navigating the same challenges—loving their children fiercely, cherishing their unique qualities, and celebrating their accomplishments, while also feeling exhausted. The good news is that there are numerous summer programs designed to provide the right environment for children with specific needs. Whether your child has ADD, ADHD, autism at any point on the spectrum, dyslexia, behavioral challenges, or medical conditions such as Crohn's, diabetes, or severe allergies, there are safe and supportive summer opportunities available.
So, how do you begin the process of finding the right program?
1. Determine Readiness for Overnight Camp
The first step is assessing whether your child is ready for an overnight camp experience. Ask yourself: Can they sleep over at a friend or relative’s house without distress? If yes, they may be ready for camp. If not, consider whether a gentle push in that direction could help foster independence and resilience.
2. Do Your Research
Being open about your child’s specific needs and your desired outcomes is crucial. Seek out reputable organizations that specialize in matching children with the right camp experiences. Talk to other parents who have faced similar decisions, as well as camp experts. Conversations with camp directors and past camper families will provide valuable insights. Be sure to confirm that the staff-to-camper ratio is appropriately small—ideally 3:1 or even 1:1, depending on your child’s needs. Additionally, ensure that the camp facilities are safe and well-maintained.
3. Consider the Camp Community: Specialized vs. Mainstreaming
Some families prefer a camp designed specifically for children with similar needs, ensuring access to therapeutic support and a sense of belonging. Others want their child to be in a mainstream setting to learn social cues and behaviors from peers. There is no right or wrong approach—only what aligns with your family's philosophy.
If opting for a mainstream camp, verify that the environment is welcoming and inclusive. A good sign is if the camp director or senior staff have personal experience with children who have special needs—their empathy will likely influence the overall camp culture. You might also explore the option of hiring a shadow counselor to support your child in maintaining an appropriate staff-to-camper ratio.
4. Ensure Medical Support Meets Your Needs
Since many campers require daily medication, confirm that the camp’s medical team is well-equipped to handle your child's specific requirements. Check that:
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Medications are properly managed and adjustments can be made for increased activity levels.
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A licensed nurse or doctor is on-site or makes regular visits.
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A pediatrician is available within a 10-minute drive.
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An emergency medical facility is within 20 minutes of camp.
5. Look for a Varied and Skill-Building Program
A well-rounded camp experience should help your child build confidence through skill development. Whether it’s dribbling a basketball, making a bed, or practicing table manners, they should return home with a sense of accomplishment. Make sure the camp offers structured opportunities for personal growth that are measurable and worthy of celebration upon their return.
A Well-Deserved Break for You
While your child is away at camp, gaining confidence, making friends, and having fun, take a moment for yourself. You have provided an incredible opportunity for your child—one that fosters independence and joy. You deserve to embrace the quiet moments, knowing you’ve given them the gift of an enriching summer experience.